I’ve always been a fat girl, I was a fat girl, I’m a fat woman. And my Dad saw me going out to a party once, and I was wearing hot pants, purple hot pants, really ill advised. And I was about to leave the house, and my dad saw me, so he called me in and asked me to sit down.
And I thought, “Euh, I’m going to get ‘The Talk’ now, the “get home early” talk.
But he said, “Okay, you’re wearing very short shorts”, and I said, “Yeah, that’s what you do”, like ‘you’re the fool’.
And he said: “Yeah, well, wearing those shorts they way you are is going to attract a lot of attention, from a lot of men.” So that slightly dumbfounded me. And then he said, “Listen, you deserve all of that attention, because you are a beautiful princess. You are the most beautiful girl at that party and you deserve that attention. But, because you are the most beautiful girl there, you must the choose the right boy. Do not give your attention to the wrong boy.
And never, never, think yourself other than absolutely fantastic.
So I went out that night feeling like a Queen, and I didn’t talk to any boys, because they didn’t deserve me."
- Dawn French (via jillbiden)
August Yoga Jam Day 26: Forearm Stand (Pincha Mayurasana)
I thought I’d do a little step by step since I’ve recently been able to do this pose, though I am still using the wall, so I haven’t totally mastered it yet. I want to show how I taught myself and worked up to it (gradually).
1. Come into a downward dog and just practice lowering yourself halfway or all the way down from downward dog to forearm downward dog. Try walking your legs in as much as you can and just holding there for 5 breaths and then walking back out to a forearm plank or lifting back up into downward dog. Just do these for a few times until you get a feel for how this part of the pose is where your power and balance will be from. This pose takes tons of practice and I’ve fallen on my face, heard nasty neck cracks, bruised my shoulder, so don’t go too fast, just focus first on building you forearm and core strength first. If you never get past this step, don’t worry, I was in a holding pattern in this part for a LONG time.
2. As you work more on step 1, come back into a forearm down dog and just walk your feet up as much as you can while trying to keep your legs straight. When you feel ready, lift one leg up and hold it there for 5 breaths. You’ll feel more weight on your arms and core, which is good. Lower your leg back down to your forearm down dog and then lift the opposite leg and hold for 5 breaths. Repeat this as many times as needed. Again, I couldn’t move past this part for months.
3. If you’ve mastered the 1st 2 steps and feel bold enough to kick up into the pose next to a wall, give it a shot. You may not be able to kick all the way up, but just alternate your lift off leg to give your body a chance to feel what’s going on. Kick up gently so you don’t come crashing down or hit the wall too hard. If you’re using a wall you can just rest your feet on it for however long you need. At this step, your arms, core and balance are super important for holding all your weight. Feel the stretch in your back and then come down.
4. Once you’re on the wall, if you feel ready to move away from it to hold yourself up entirely wall-free, give it a go. If you can hold it for 1 second, great, if you can hold it for 5, awesome. Any amount of time is progress.
Mastering inversions are REALLY hard and take constant practice, patience, strength and commitment. Don’t feel bad if you don’t get them for a long time. It took me almost 4 months just to get into Step 3. I’m now trying to work up my courage to move away from the wall so I ultimately sustain this pose from my core and arms and not worry about having the wall as my safety net.
I hope this helped anyone who is interested in learning this challenging pose! :}
And a stomach full of cupcakes
I rarely reblog bikini shots, but I will make an exception for Elise because damn, she is wearing the hell out of that! Do your thing, girl!
I’ve seen at a lot of so-called “fitspiration” sites that claim “strong is the new skinny” and what I’ve seen is a whole lot of bodies that all look the same. Cheryl Haworth is almost 300 pounds and is an Olympic medalist who was once the third strongest woman in the world, but I’ve never seen her, or anyone who looks like her, on a “strong is the new skinny” website, the sentiment seems to be much more “skinny with muscles” is the new “skinny.” There’s nothing wrong with skinny bodies, or skinny muscular bodies or any other bodies but there should not be a “preferable” body.
At the end of the day, this is basically about giving women the message that we should all try to be “This!” which is the new “That!” which will make us worthy/good/socially acceptable whatever. It’s like climbing out of one hole, falling into another one, and then celebrating that we’re in a different hole. It’s also really unkind to women who identify as skinny who are told that their body is somehow “out” and that they need to look like, or be, something else. I happen to believe that all bodies are amazing.
How about we stay away from the message that skinny used to be the thing that everyone should want to be, but now there’s a new thing that everyone should want to be. I think the message we’re looking for is “we shouldn’t measure our worth based on an arbitrary standard” not “we should measure our worth by a different arbitrary standard.”"
- Ragen Chastain (via size10plz)